After witnessing an elderly man sitting alone and ignored on a park bench for 40 long minutes, an onlooker was motivated to start an anti-isolation movement in her local community. The movement caught on.
“I came up with the idea of a sign that would open avenues for people [to chat],” Allison explained. “I didn’t want it to sound too vulnerable, so I wrote, ‘Happy to chat bench. Sit here if you don’t mind someone stopping to say hello.’ All of a sudden, you’re not invisible anymore.”
In May of 2019, Allison laminated a series of cards and fixed them to benches in the Cardiff city center. The local non-profit Senior Citizen Liaison Team picked up on Allison’s kind gesture and took it even further; they set up partnerships with Avon, Somerset, and Gwent police departments in order to dedicate permanent “chat benches” in central city locations.
“We wanted to highlight loneliness among the elderly but we never imagined it would prove such a remarkable success,” Detective Sergeant Ashley Jones of Aberdare reflected. “We’ve been contacted by people all over the world, all eager to take up such a simple idea.”
Jones became personally invested in the idea of chat benches after an interaction with an elderly widow who was the victim of a financial scam. The widow was called every day by a man masquerading as her friend; eventually, the scammer convinced the widow to send him close to $31,000.
Saddened by this example of profound social isolation in his community, Jones and his department dedicated chat benches in two local parks, Taunton and Burnham. Jones’s signs reflected Allison’s original message: “The ‘Happy to Chat’ bench. Sit here if you don’t mind someone stopping to say hello.”
“Sadly there are a growing number of criminals who seek to take advantage of our senior community. Older people can be more vulnerable to cons and fraud, doorstep crime, distraction burglary, and online/telephone scams.”
Today, thanks to social media, “Happy to Chat” benches are springing up in locations all around the globe.
The next time any of us are sat on a bench in a public place, we might consider extending a friendly “hello” to a stranger; it could genuinely change someone’s day for the better.