Years ago, one of my little sister’s least favorite jobs was sweeping the kitchen floor. Although the kitchen was small, the chore would take her forever, and she would often sit there amidst the scattered chairs, broom in one direction, dustpan in another, particles of dust and crumbs trickling into an attempted pile.
Suddenly, however, this forlorn picture was transformed. Although young, my little sister soon became one of the best sweepers. I’d also venture to say that this chore became one of her favorites. What changed?
One day, our dad—likely when my sister was sitting amidst a pile of scattered dust and crumbs—came up to her and walked her through the chore, teaching her to methodically go over each floorboard.
Such a task, while it sounds easy, isn’t, for getting children involved in an adult’s work is both messy and time-consuming. Yet if parents want to take the easy way out and do everything themselves, they are programming their child to lose interest and later complain when asked to pull their share of the load around the house.
So why are children who learn to do chores early on more successful at life in general? I would suggest it’s because chores not only teach life skills, but because they teach humility as well.
In reflecting on his comments, however, I started thinking. Our children may get too puffed up when we don’t train them to do chores ... but is it possible we aren’t training them because of our own prideful, self-absorbed mentalities?
As the NPR article suggests, we neglect teaching our children these things because it takes more of our time to train them, and even then, the chores aren’t always done up to our standards. We want our houses to look good to others, so dishes or vacuuming done by a child still learning the task might not make the house as presentable as we would like.
Likewise, we claim we don’t have time to teach our children these tasks because we’re too busy with work, or helping on a school committee, or organizing an event at church, or orchestrating the community garage sale. These activities are public-facing and can make us feel like we’re accomplishing a lot of good.
But what if we adjusted our perspective, recognizing that our children are the most important things in the world? If we pause to remember that children are a parent’s legacy, then the time we spend training them, while time-consuming and not always initially rewarding—perhaps even humbling—will eventually reap a huge return on investment as we see our children turn into responsible, successful, and hard-working adults.