The sign of being a good person is treating others with respect and dignity. But to take it a step further and be thought of as charming, use these tips to make others feel good about themselves.
Spread Happiness
Setting a good example is an effective way to be charming. A great attitude is infectious, and can be a great way to boost the spirits of everyone you encounter. From life-long friends to the cashier at the coffee shop, a warm smile and a “I hope you’re having a good day,” or other appropriate comment delivered with direct eye contact can help to transform their mood from “meh” to marvelous.Let Them Talk
Even the shyest person has stories they’d like to share, so show interest and ask questions that will encourage them to start a real conversation as opposed to just small talk. People are attracted to those who listen without cutting the conversation short or interrupting, and are genuinely interested in what they are saying. Let the other person have the spotlight, laugh at their jokes, and watch them shine.Be Humble
Nobody likes the narcissist who feels the need to top everyone else’s story or accomplishments, so be careful to not inadvertently come across as “that guy.” The best way to respond to someone describing how they completed a tough task is, “Wow, that’s really impressive; good going!” If you are the coworker who managed to land the firm’s biggest client ever, accept the praise with a polite and equally sincere “thank you.”Stand Tall
It is possible to be charming with bad posture, but it’s much easier when you enhance it with the nonverbal communication technique of standing up straight, making eye contact while speaking, and shaking hands with a firm, but not overly squeezing grip. Be generous but not fawning with compliments and acknowledgements of birthdays and work anniversaries. Compliments about a neighbor or coworkers’ pets or children is another way to build a meaningful connection.Smiles are Infectious
Start each interaction in a friendly manner. Regardless of whether it’s a customer service representative on the phone, or a coworker in person, smile as you speak, as this adds warmth to the conversation. Begin with a welcoming statement such as, “I hope you can help me with this,” or “I’m so glad I bumped into you” to reassure them you are seeking their knowledge and assistance, or are just happy to see them.
