It’s too easy to get caught up in work and family issues, so make time to sit across from friends and tell stories, enjoy a good meal, and take a break from everyday stress. Here are a few tips to make sure everyone has a great time.
Pick a Convenient Location
Get everyone’s input when choosing a restaurant. If someone doesn’t enjoy sushi, find another place to go. Make it easy to get to, as you’ll all have to get there on time and then make it home within a reasonable timeframe. Consider meeting for dinner rather than lunch to create a more relaxed atmosphere, if only because there’s less pressure to get back to the office. Don’t forget to make sure the restaurant will be open when you plan to arrive.Keep It Fun
These meals are about enjoying each other’s company, so do your best to avoid politics, religion, and other controversial subjects that could put a damper on fun. Diplomatically steer the conversation back on track if someone in the group wants to discuss sensitive topics. Without being a damp blanket, make sure no one overindulges, and be aware if your group’s antics are disturbing others at nearby tables—they are also there to have a nice time, so behave yourselves.Be Fair
We’ve all been there: You only had one appetizer and a soft drink, but when the check comes, it’s split equally and you end up subsidizing the folks who had multiple cocktails and full meals. Before the server begins to take orders, discreetly ask him or her for separate checks in order to keep things fair. If one person offers to pick up the tab, don’t go wild ordering expensive items, and offer to pay at least a portion of the tip.Timeliness
When the plan is set and a location and time agreed upon, be on time. Showing up “fashionably late” is disrespectful to everyone who made the effort to be punctual. Don’t overstay, either—your friends may have babysitters or pets waiting for them at home, or others may need to get up early for work. Don’t expect to be seated if you arrive a half-hour ahead of everyone else; taking a table out of service adversely affects the restaurant’s bottom line.Keep It Private
If someone shares confidential info, whether intentionally or by accident, keep it private. Don’t even share it with your spouse, if they aren’t present, or other friends who know both parties. Similarly, don’t gossip about those who aren’t present. These are your friends, so be aware if you sense someone may need a bit more attention due to difficulties at home or at work. Discreetly ask if they would like to discuss anything in private with you.
