Being a lady is about more than how you sit, stand, talk, and walk—though we’ll cover that, too! A true lady shows respect for herself and others. Let’s bring back the golden days of good manners.
Sit Like a Lady
Some of us were lucky enough to have had grandmothers who taught us “Don’t slouch!” until we learned to sit with our head up, shoulders back and spine straight, knees crossed or together. Except when on a low chair, we learned to not cross our legs. Instead, hold your knees together and lean them to the side.Similarly, don’t step or climb into a car; instead, sit on the edge of the seat, then turn into the vehicle while pulling your legs in. Getting out on a red carpet? Put both feet firmly on the asphalt prior to standing.
Talk the Talk
All words matter. “Please” and “thank you” are easy and essential, while loud voices and foul language are never appropriate.Ladylike conversation goes further; it’s all about carefully chosen subjects, avoiding personal topics (age, relationship status, salary, is the chubby girl pregnant or not?). A lady asks, “What do you think?” often to encourage conversation. She doesn’t hold her phone in her hand while she talks, instead keeping it on silent in her purse or at the very least on vibrate in a pocket if waiting for a critical message.
Dress to Impress
A lady dresses appropriately for every situation. Not sure what to wear? Opt for being overdressed rather than underdressed. It’s the polite choice. You’ve got a great wardrobe; this is your chance to enjoy it.A lady is not only well-dressed, but also well-groomed. Neat hair, modest make-up, and nice nails—particularly if you’ll be holding out your phone to show off the kids’ latest photos—are a must. Most of all, carry yourself with confidence.
Table Manners
Good table manners go well beyond using the correct fork and laying your napkin in your lap as soon as you sit down, unfolding it once it’s in your lap, of course. Dignified ladies know that you can put on lipstick at the table, but only after the meal. You don’t want to leave unsightly lipstick imprints on your glass. Applying mascara or retouching makeup and brushing your hair should only be done in the bathroom.Also, watch the cocktails, drinking water in between, because no one is elegant after “one too many.”
Courteous Concerns
Being punctual shows you respect the other person’s time. If the situation is beyond a lady’s control, she should immediately call or text her date or host to update them on the situation—that’s one of the great uses of the ubiquitous mobile phone.A lady should always be gracious, except when she’s not—there’s no reason to allow someone to be abusive. Personal boundaries show you respect yourself.
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, a lady knows how to allow a gentleman to be a gentleman.
