By John Rampton
Recently I had one of those days. Although nothing catastrophic happened, there were a series of minor events that didn’t make for a good day. In turn—as a result of my mood—many of the daily road bumps felt worse than they really were. By the end of the day, I was exhausted and frustrated.
However, I didn’t want to spend what time I had left in the day feeling this crummy. It wasn’t fair to my family or me. The last thing I wanted was to be short with them or to lose sleep because I was tossing and turning. So, I took a few minutes for myself and focused on all the things that went right today. I also reflected on all the small things that made the day awesome.
And guess what? I didn’t just feel better. I felt amazing.
It may sound strange, but this is the power of gratitude. It’s one of the most effective ways to become not only a better leader but also a better person. But, if you are not convinced about this, let’s explain why great leaders should practice gratitude and how they can do so every day.
How Gratitude Makes You a Better Leader
Before I discuss how gratitude can make you a better leader—I think everyone should be aware of why we know about the gratitude practice. The effects of gratitude were studied in the works of Robert Emmons, Ph.D., at the University of California, Davis. Emmons studied the impact of gratitude on physical health, psychological well-being, and on our relationships with others. Immersed in this work for over a decade, Emmons found that gratitude comes with the following benefits:Physical
- stronger immune systems
- not as bothered by aches and pains
- lower blood pressure
- exercise more and take better care of their health
- sleep longer and feel more refreshed upon waking
Psychological
- higher levels of positive emotions
- more alert, alive, and awake
- more joy, optimism, happiness, and pleasure
Social
- more helpful, generous, and compassionate
- more forgiving
- feel less lonely and isolated and are more outgoing
Gratitude research from Emmons and Anjali Mishra discovered that expressing gratitude lowers stress. They also found that “gratitude enhances effortful goal striving.”
That’s well and good? But, what how can gratitude make you a better and more effective leader?
Nicole Lipkin writes that leaders should cultivate gratitude because it breeds employee engagement, more positive interactions, and builds resistance. What’s more, gratitude helps you acknowledge your accomplishments. Thankfulness encourages you to focus on your successes. You will not be consumed by the success or failures of your competitors, and you'll be making the world better for those around you.
Gratitude, while allowing you to embrace your accomplishments, also keeps your ego in check. That’s because appreciation will enable you to realize that without assistance from others, you wouldn’t be as successful. Maybe it’s because you have a spouse who was your primary source of support and inspiration. A business partner provided you with the finances to launch your business. Or, thanks to their hard work and dedication, your business idea has become a reality because of your employees.
Also, when we’re thankful and optimistic, others gravitate towards us. Being approachable and encouraging is critical when networking and attracting top talent. A study from the University of Pennsylvania that shows when leaders are grateful to their employees, the employees are 50 percent more successful.
Furthermore, a study conducted by David DeSteno at Northwestern University found that being thankful or appreciative improves financial patience. And in the words of Gary Vaynerchuk, “It’s impossible not to stay motivated or get too down when you’re feeling grateful.”
How Leaders Can Practice Gratitude Daily
If you’re ready to tap into the power of gratitude, here are nine simple ways you can practice gratitude day in and out.1. Schedule Time Every Day to Reflect With Gratitude
I get it. You have so much on your plate that I doubt practicing gratitude is a priority or at the top of your mind. However, if you block out a specific time to practice gratitude in your calendar, it will become a priority. And, eventually, recognition of what you have to be thankful for will turn into a habit.For example, you can up your game of awareness by scheduling time to reflect with gratitude during a break. Consider a meditation-moment by closing your eyes and thinking about any pleasant surprises you’ve experienced so far. Imagine what life would be like without your employees. Consider how good your business is doing—and the thanks should go to your customers, employees and your community.
2. Be Authentic
Gratitude is more effective when it’s authentic. For example, if an employee just completed a project, as a grateful leader you can do more than offer a generic “thanks.” Name a specific action, saying something like, “Thanks, Jim, for getting this project to me before the due date. I appreciate that you’re so reliable.”3. Celebrate Wins Both Big and Small
We all love celebrating the significant milestones, and, you definitely shouldn’t stop doing that. But the massive breakthroughs don’t happen daily. However, each day, you encounter smaller victories and happy moments. With that in mind, if you catch a team member doing something awesome, grateful leaders shouldn’t hesitate to let them know you like that and appreciate their efforts. Those seemingly unimportant words of encouragement will add-up over time.4. Compliment Your Team Daily
Compliments and praise should be authentic and genuine, and you may need to practice the extra effort of saying something if you sound phony. Don’t be one-of-those leaders who say, “sure appreciate you” while reading a report. Keep in mind the importance of eye contact, an actual win, a real compliment. When your efforts are genuine, it makes the other person feel like a million bucks and becomes natural to you.5. Don’t Forget to Acknowledge Your Unsung Heroes
Every workplace has a “rockstar.” That’s necessarily a bad thing. But, you don’t want to always shine the spotlight on them. Give acknowledgment to the back-up-singers, the backing band and roadies as well. Recognize your support columns, not just your angel-corbels at the top.6. Take an Interest in Your Organization
I would say that taking an interest could be the most natural good thing you could do to show your employees your gratitude. Just take a couple of minutes to shoot the breeze with them. Some of your employees have no one but the team to depend on for support. You can include them as part of your team by giving them a shout-out.7. Provide Learning Opportunities
Research from ClearCompany shows that 76 percent of employees want opportunities for career growth. Go ahead and provide them with personal and professional learning opportunities. Examples are online classes, in-person workshops, or the chance to attend an industry conference—maybe even meeting up with you and your group.8. Let Employees Have a Say
When employees have the opportunity to voice their opinions and share their ideas, they feel more valued. It’s also another way to express your gratitude since it lets them know that you want them involved in big decisions and successes.9. Create a Positive Work Culture
Finally, fostering a positive work culture will make your team more productive, happy, creative, and collaborative. Cultivating a positive culture amid the mad rush in tech also demonstrates that you value and respect your team as people and not just another cog in the business wheel.There are numerous ways you can achieve a positive atmosphere, and thus have a positive impact on your team. You can start by greeting your employees when they arrive every morning. You could also surprise them by buying lunch, playing games on a Friday afternoon, and being respectful of their time. Don’t forget to grant your team autonomy and address any toxic behaviors ASAP.
