What is the best present to give your love for Valentine’s Day? Or more importantly, what presents should you avoid? It’s a question many guys fret over. Whether you’ve just become “official” or you’ve been married for four years, there is a lot of men out there who have no idea of the meaning behind their well-intended gifts. Flowers are standard winner for Valentine´s day, but if you want to add something else this year, continue reading.
So although she knows you love her, some gifts won’t make her as happy as you might think. And be warned too, the same present can convey something different at a stage in the relationship. So what do women really think about Valentine’s Day presents?
For Newer Relationships: 2 weeks - 1 year
Be Careful with:
Candles
Be careful with candles indeed, as they’re probably one of the most chameleon-like gift options out there. Given at the beginning of relation, candles can say you didn’t spend too much time thinking about or searching for the best gift for her. But it’s a totally different situation when you already know she’s crazy about candles and you buy her favorite scent that she'll be shocked you even knew about. Than we could say you are lucky, since buying presents for her shouldn´t be a big deal.
Facebook wall message
You’re dating for more than half a year. That´s usually the fragile time when the two of you are deciding whether you want it to be serious or just “one season” love. If you post some random rose picture on her wall, I think the decision would be quickly clear.
Movie you want to see more
Small dinner at home and then movie night at cinema. Sounds great by far. The only problem could be the movie you have chosen to entertain your lovely girly---Fast and Furious 7? Or Batman: The Dark Knight Rises? It can be hard to choose the right movie on Valentine´s day---you don’t want something cheesy and girly, but to watch car crushing the whole night might not be so funny for her as well. Maybe this is the right time to see something more intellectual or historical. Try Woody Allen´s movie - he satisfies both criteria.
Score with:
Dinner out
If you’re dating for 2 or 3 weeks thinking “I want to be with her more often,” a romantic dinner out should say you care about her and want to take your relationship more seriously. With a small present to top it off you can give her impression: “I like you, but I don’t want to meet your parents,” what is probably what you at this time want. Take your time to think about something that would really make her happy, this is the perfect time in a relationship where you can glow.
Hand-made something
Remember how truly happy was your mom was when you draw her something as a kid? It should work with your girlfriend as well. Moreover, when you are together for more than half a year and still care about her so much, that you hand-crafted, with your own (non-existent) skill, an original Valentine’s card, will go far.
Gourmet chocolate
Giving chocolate as you near a yearlong relationship might mean two things: You were too busy or forgot until the last minute it was Valentine´s day (how did you do that??) or you really had no idea what to give her. She might still see that you at least tried by giving her some more exclusives ones (never give Pot of Gold!), but be prepared to give her that “special gift you’re saving for tomorrow.”
For Relationships Over 1 Year
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For Relationships Over 1 Year
Try to Avoid:
Present for a kitchen
Alright you practical men. Useful gifts are great, that needs to be said. But Valentine´s Day is about surprises, right? Although you’ve been together for two years and are thinking “this is my future wife,” she definitely still wants to be surprised. And she definitely doesn’t want to feel like you perceive her as your cook. So leave that hand-blender or cooker for next Christmas (if at all).
The Question
In a longer relationship, try to avoid the question “What do you want me to get you?” But it’s probably fine to ask “Let’s do something special together on Valentine’s, what shall we do?” Although she can be disappointed by not getting a surprise, the possibilities you giving here are not so bad at all. Be sure to ask honestly, as you really want to give her whatever she will want.
Are we still doing Valentine’s Day?
This is not the right question. Regardless if you’ve been together for five years or more, and even if she is the biggest anti-Valentine’s Day person you know, a small gift will always make her happy to know you’re thinking about her. You can still say that it is just spontaneous gift that has nothing to do with Valentine’s Day.
Make her happy with:
What does she really want
Don’t worry about the best Valentine’s Day gift for a while. Just try to remember, where was that purse that she was so admiring? Where did she said, “Awww, that’s the bracelet of my dreams”? If you have a pluck to ask her girlfriends, your girl is a lucky one.
Simulate your first date
If you’ve been together three years or more, there is hardly anything you don’t know about your love and you’ve always tried to giver her everything you see in her eyes. But with so many birthdays, anniversaries, Christmases, and Valentine’s Days already, you’re fresh out of ideas and can’t think how to be original yet again. So what about taking a step back. Reenact your first date or just bring some beautiful memory to life again. Another option is take her on an unexpected trip. Paris is always a good idea!
Sometimes less is more
You might find it surprising, but a simple evening spent together at home talking, making dinner together, or playing games can be the best Valentine’s Day you’ve ever had. That’s true especially for longer relationships. Let’s be honest, girls love to be heard.
