Your aging parents eventually may need someone to care for and handle their important decisions. While not always necessary, it will be for many adult children. You can prepare for that day by asking some essential questions ahead of time and understanding your parents’ wishes.
Medical Care
Your elderly parents may already be getting regular medical care for some health problems and taking medications for them. Find out about their doctor’s visits and any medicines and dosages they are taking. Also, meet and talk with their doctors during visits to ensure they get the proper care while at home.Find out about their health insurance plans and where to find their insurance cards and policy. Ask whether or not they have long-term care insurance and what insurer carries the policy.
If they develop dementia, ask them about their preference for caregiver support. Caring for elderly parents with dementia can be challenging. Do they prefer a family caregiver, a live-in caregiver, or a home care agency to provide part-time services? Before asking this question, consider how much you may be available to help provide care.
Important Documents
When a parent develops dementia or needs to go into a hospital or needs other care, you do not want to have to search a house to find important documents. Find out if they are current and where you can find them. The documents you may need include:- wills
- birth and marriage certificates
- Social Security cards
- military records
- property deeds and titles
- insurance policies
- pension benefits
- tax records
- trust information
Legal Care
Aging parents also need someone appointed to take care of their finances. It includes the authority to make financial decisions for the parent(s), the ability to pay bills (including healthcare), etc. The parent’s choice needs to be in a Durable Power of Attorney document. TheElderLawGroup mentions that a spouse may not be knowledgeable of how to handle such issues.Financial Concerns
The children also need to know the financial condition of the aging parents because they may need medical care later. The children should know how the parents intend to pay for it because it can be very expensive. AmadaSeniorCare says that caregivers make an average of $20 per hour; assisted living centers cost over $3,600 per month, and living in a private nursing home will average about $250 per day.- Medicare
- Medicaid
- Veteran’s Benefits
- Supplemental Security Income
- Social Security Disability Insurance
- Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program
Protecting Their Assets
Do they have an estate plan in place to help protect their assets? If not, can they create one—or can a will or trust successfully transfer the assets?Preparing for Medicaid
Discussing the matter of long-term care can be a touchy subject because many seniors know that they will need to spend down their assets to get Medicaid. Even though long-term care may not be necessary, it is a good idea to understand the wishes of your aging parents if the need should arise.Medicaid is not a federal program, but the government wrote the governing principles in 1965. Each state must follow those guidelines and make funds available to almost anyone. It is intended to provide financial help for the disabled and people with low incomes.