Dear Dave,
I’m in college full-time right now, and my parents have been generous enough to pay for some of my school expenses. In addition, they let me live at home while I complete my degree. I work some nights and most weekends so I can go to school debt-free, but I’m trying to figure out how to move out on my own and continue working while remaining a full-time student and attending career-related campus events. The cost of living is high in our area, so I’m having trouble figuring out how to make it all work. Do you have some advice?
—Will
Dear Will,
You sound like a very driven and mature young man. Congratulations on everything you’ve been able to accomplish so far. I’m glad you’re working hard in school with an eye toward the future. First off, out of the three considerations you mentioned—school, work, and cost of living—I think you need to decide which is your No. 1 priority. If I were in your shoes, school would come first.
I want you to be out on your own as soon as you can, as well. But if you do that right now, you’re going to have extra bills and be forced to work even more. That’s going to throw your entire school process out of whack. Guess what your No. 1 priority was in that scenario. Right, moving out. If it’s the tail that’s wagging the dog, it has become the No. 1 priority. If it’s disrupting work and thereby disrupting your academics, then, in my mind, you’ve put your focus on the wrong thing.
Your No. 1 goal should be finishing school on time while attending as many connected events as possible. Meanwhile, keep working enough so that you’re able to continue doing all of this debt-free. If that means you’re staying at home a little bit longer to pull it off, I’d do it!
—Dave