The internet is an astounding tool that links us to one another. It offers us an immense array of connections, ideas, and opportunities. But it’s also a web we can get stuck in.
A Long, Hard Look at Screens
Many smart people are asking these questions. There’s MIT professor Sherry Turkle, who has written a number of books and articles about how technology usage affects society—such as the way it has dried up deep, face-to-face conversation. There’s journalist and tech writer Nicholas Carr, who wrote a book about how the internet has rewired our brains and shortened our attention spans. Historian Dixie Dillon Lane unplugs on weekends to live more fully and be more present with her family. And there are writers Peco and Ruth Gaskovski, who run a Substack dedicated to articulating a framework for healthier technology use and highlighting ways to recover goods lost to the techno-vortex.“Wrap your head around how sad that is,” Mr. Ambrosi continued. “Imagine getting to the age of 90, seeing ... how you spent all your time after the age of 18, and thinking about all the things you could’ve done that you did not do because you got distracted.”
Tone Down the Tech
Of course, tech resistance isn’t about rejecting all gadgets in a Luddite-type overreaction. Instead, it’s about placing rules and limits on devices to prevent negative effects from occurring. At the same time, tech resistance isn’t only about avoiding the negative; it’s also about recovering the positive: restoring attention spans, rebuilding community, and reviving meaningful memories and relationships.“Because we’re urban dwellers and inescapably connected to the grid, we’ve not forsworn all technological communication but have focused on those forms that seem to undermine the bonds of community most directly,” one tech resister, Jeanne Schindler, said.
“These are the smartphone and social media; the former because it radically undermines the capacity for sustained attention and awareness of our surroundings, the latter because it reduces our capacity to build and sustain natural relationships in their proper shape and scale.”
Ms. Schindler helped create the “Postman Pledge.” The pledge, based on the work of Neil Postman, is a promise that parents make to restrict technology use for themselves and their children.
“We want our children to become the sort of people who can recognize and celebrate the goodness of the world, of what is real,” Ms. Schindler said.
“Our Postman Pledge group is attempting to foster our connections to real things, like the natural world, through face-to-face activities in beautiful settings (e.g., family picnics and field days in the park, Christmas caroling by lantern light under the stars, singing in front of the hearth).”
More families seek to create a less tech-dominated environment for their children, forming Postman Pledge groups or similar entities.
I’ve recently tried to reckon with the role of technology in my own home and family. We’ve experimented with household rules that exclude devices from certain rooms in our house, like our living room. That way, I hope technology won’t become the physical or psychological center of our lives.
Our daughter sees less of us with eyes glazed, staring at a phone. Though she’s only 1 year old, she’s at a very impressionable age and will imitate our tech habits. Already, she often holds up a book or other square object to her face and talks into it as if it’s a phone. If she sees us always on electronic devices, that will be her tendency as she gets older.
Technology isn’t going anywhere. It certainly can be used for good. But tech resisters suggest that we ask ourselves an important question: Will we master our technologies, or will they master us?