I hardly knew my mother’s mother, who died when I was in second grade, but to this day, one picture of her face remains vivid in my memory.
Three years before her death, we were in an upstairs room of our house, and Grandma was telling me the story of “Little Red Riding Hood.” Her front teeth were large, and protruded a bit, and when she came to the part where Little Red Riding Hood says to the wolf, “What big teeth you have, Grandmother,” my grandmother scared the dickens out of me by then roaring, “The better to eat you up with, my dear,” and snapping those teeth at me.
Whenever I reach that point in the story, while telling it to my own children and grandchildren, in my mind’s eye, I don’t see a wolf. I see Grandma.
From Campfires to Movie Theaters
For untold generations, human beings have swapped stories about fairies and goblins, princesses in distress, witches, spells, animals transformed into people and vice versa. Some folklorists like the Brothers Grimm collected and recorded these tales. Others like Hans Christian Andersen composed their own fairy tales.Even today, writers refashion or invent fairy tales. After all, what is Tolkien’s beloved “Lord of the Rings” if not a fairy tale par excellence?
Are Fairy Tales Harmful?
Not everyone finds value in these stories.She writes, “In a culture where we’re getting hitched later than ever before and many choose never to marry at all, the compulsory ‘let’s get married and live happily ever after’ narrative seems practically medieval.”
And as so often happens these days, when political correctness has wormed its way into every corner of our lives, this criticism misses the bigger picture, especially the value of fairy tales for the very young.
Distinction Between Darkness, Light Is Sharply Drawn
Let’s consider the Brothers Grimm version of “Cinderella.” Unlike the Disney cartoon, Cinderella’s dying mother enjoins her to “be good and pious.” Her sisters “were beautiful and fair in appearance, but at heart were black and ugly.” As the story progresses, we see a real struggle between good and evil. (At the end of the original tale, two pigeons pluck out the wicked stepsisters’ eyes. Fairy tales can be violent.)Not only do fairy tales illustrate the canyon between good and evil, but they also show children that evil can be overcome, that good can win out in the end. When I watch my small grandchildren wave their sword sticks at imaginary enemies, and I ask them to identify their opponents, they always reply, “The bad guys.”
Later, when they are older, they will be able to parse moral ambiguity, but first, they must learn the basic distinction between the “good guys” and the “bad guys.”
Fairy Tales Fire Up Imagination
We all enjoy turning on the ignition switch of the imagination. Consider the popularity of the Star Wars movies or the many superhero movies of the last 20 years.Fairy Tales Offer Life Lessons on a Level Children Can Understand
“The Emperor’s New Clothes” teaches a child that human beings can deceive themselves. “Goldilocks and the Three Bears” warns against taking what belongs to others. “The Three Little Pigs” stresses the importance of a job well done. “Pinocchio” tells youngsters that lying is a bad idea.These tales get their messages across through entertainment rather than overt moralizing. The listening child absorbs these lessons along with the story’s enchantments.
Fairy Tales Are a Part of Our Culture and Tradition
Tradition derives from the Latin “tradere,” meaning “to hand on,” “to hand over.” When we fail to hand over a part of that culture, we are failing the young. Many young people, for example, are ignorant of the Bible, which means they will be stymied by literary or conversational references even to basics like “Sermon on the Mount” or “the widow’s mite.”The same is true of fairy tales. Most of the young are familiar with such tales as “Cinderella” or “Aladdin” through movies, but how many know “The Princess and the Pea” or “Rumpelstiltskin?” By sharing these stories with our youngsters, we introduce them into the broader culture.
“Once upon a time….” When strung together, surely those are four of the most magical words in the English language.
Let’s make sure our children hear them.