Build mutually beneficial relationships with friends, neighbors, co-workers, club members, students in your classes, and others you come into contact with on a regular basis. This can lead to job opportunities; finding a new car, pet, or apartment; or perhaps even meeting the love of your life.
Be Alert
Opportunities can pop up fleetingly before quickly disappearing, making it important to pay attention and ask questions when you hear something that may be exactly what you’re seeking.As an example, while sometimes the people in your network may be aware that you’re looking for a new job and may alert you to submit an application, it’s more likely that most are oblivious to the fact yet might mention in passing that they work for or have a connection with the firm you want to join. In that case, politely let them know you’re interested in the company and ask for their advice on submitting a job application.
Enjoy the Moment
The vast majority of time spent networking probably won’t result in you hearing about your dream job or discovering that someone you know is selling the exact car you’ve always wanted but couldn’t find. Simply enjoying the company of those in your network, rather than essentially interrogating them for leads, can put both of you at ease as you enjoy spending time catching up with each other. You may have a specific goal to achieve, and it’s OK to let others know what that is, but then turn the focus to them to renew and refresh your connection.Give More Than You Get
Don’t be a mercenary; others are more likely to let you in on opportunities if it’s clear you aren’t only talking to them in hopes of getting what you want. Networking is all about building relationships in which it becomes only natural to tell each other about great opportunities that might be a perfect fit.With that in mind, actively listen to the conversation, with the goal of being able to assist others by pointing them in the right direction whenever it’s within your power. It isn’t unusual that a great opportunity will present itself when everyone is enjoying the interaction, and suddenly the person you’re talking with thinks of a great job or perfect new apartment for you.
Be Switzerland
Be careful and think twice, or even three times, about making a joke, comment, or even stating an opinion that might offend others. This is especially important if you don’t know them all that well, in which case it’s best to not say anything at all. If your network is a group of people, such as at a club meeting or school or with several neighbors, don’t make controversial comments; you may find vanilla boring, but it’s safe.On a related note, be careful how you respond if someone else makes an off-colored joke or vociferous political comment to avoid seeming to condone it.
