During my late teens, my mom handed me two worn, blue passport-size books with details of my custodial investment accounts. I had no clue what to do with them, but it didn’t matter, because the accounts were empty anyway. Perhaps for the best, because I’m almost certain my assets wouldn’t have stood a chance.
Share Money Values Early
Preparation begins as early as possible when it comes to teaching your kids about money, says Cristina Livadary, a certified financial planner and co-founder of Mana Financial Life Design in Marina Del Rey, California. No matter your child’s age, you can start by talking openly about finances and sharing your values around money.Something I’ve started doing with my son is teaching him the value of giving, by encouraging him to give toys away before buying new ones. An approach Livadary recommends to teach money values is assigning what she refers to as a “job description” to each dollar you give your kids.
Teach Investing Basics
A custodial brokerage account is an investing account opened by a parent or guardian for a minor until they reach the age of majority.If your child has a job with taxable income, you could also help them open a custodial IRA or Roth IRA.
A good thing about custodial accounts is that although kids don’t control the accounts until they reach the age of majority, you can show them what’s happening.
Michael Costello, a retired consumer products executive based in Miami, and a parent of three, says he prepared his now-grown kids to manage their custodial accounts by teaching them about budgeting and saving early. He also let them view their investment accounts and watch them grow, and he facilitated investing discussions with them.
“We ended up having a lot of conversations about why do you do long-term holding? What should you look at? What are ETFs versus regular stocks? What do bonds do?” he says.
Teaching his kids about exchange-traded funds and other assets made him confident about them having access to the custodial accounts when they turned 18.
Set Goals and Teach Delayed Gratification
Delayed gratification is an important adaptive skill parents can teach kids for them to manage custodial accounts, says Anna N’Jie-Konte, a CFP and founder of Dare to Dream Planning in New York City.Since custodial accounts are brokerage accounts that can be tapped into at any time, it’s important kids view their investments as long-term money that can buy them flexibility and options in the future, she says. This could help them refrain from spending it now.
“I think one of the superpowers of people that are really financially successful and just successful period, is when they have the ability to say, ‘I recognize that I want this right now, but it’s going to be so much better if I wait and if I keep at it,’” she says.
But for delayed gratification to work, it’s important to have financial goals and a plan, which I didn’t have as a teenager, and why I think investments in my custodial account wouldn’t have lasted long. For the record, my financial plan was to become a rich actress and fund all of my lifetime expenses that way.
When setting financial goals with your kids, it’s fine to set both long—and short-term ones. Why? Some people just aren’t inspired by financial goals that are too far into the future, says Livadary.
Trust the Process
It’s also OK for your kids to make money mistakes—they can be teachable moments, Costello says.“You can’t hold back and baby them, you have to give them control, they have to make some mistakes, and then over time, they kind of figure out how to manage money better.”
If despite preparing them, you feel your kids aren’t ready to manage their assets, another option is transferring some of their assets into a trust where you can maintain control beyond the age of majority.
