In some ways, feeling “rich” is less about how many zeroes you have in your bank account and more about knowing how to use them to get what you want out of life.
For author and certified financial planner Tom Corley, feeling rich comes from having an Irish pub-style structure in his backyard in New Jersey that allows him to invite friends over for outdoor drinks. For Liz Gendreau, founder of the website Chief Mom Officer, that feeling comes from taking advantage of free, fun activities like visiting local state parks in her home state of Connecticut. And financial counselor Andi Wrenn in Raleigh, North Carolina, finds that feeling when she climbs into her RV and goes for a road trip.
“Richness comes from having small, tangible financial goals that you’re working toward,” says Megan McCoy, assistant professor of personal financial planning at Kansas State University. Those goals could be paying off student loan debt, buying a house, or something unique, like Corley’s backyard structure.
Reflect on What You Value
Gendreau knows that cars aren’t important to her but family time is. So instead of spending money on a new car, she puts her money into family activities. She stretches her budget on those, too, by taking advantage of free museum passes, local libraries, and free state parks.“It’s all about finding fun things to do that don’t really cost much money but bring a lot of joy and happiness,” she says. Indulging in those kinds of adventures gives her that feeling of being rich, even though they aren’t costly.
Pick Healthy Role Models
That joy-focused approach can also help with feelings of financial envy. “If you don’t have value-based spending, then you can fall victim to comparing yourself to others and lifestyle creep,” which is when spending grows along with income, Corley warns.McCoy says that when we constantly compare ourselves with richer neighbors or influencers on Instagram, it’s easy to be dissatisfied. “We need healthy comparisons. Is there someone else you could compare yourself to, such as your past self, or your aunt who worked so hard and got the retirement of her dreams?”
Cultivate Resilience With Savings
“You are going to make mistakes,” says Heath Carelock, a financial counselor and coach based out of Prince George’s County, Maryland. To move past them, he says, it’s important to forgive yourself and to build up a financial cushion. When he was starting out in the working world, he gave himself what he called the “1-2-3-4-5” challenge: He saved $123.45 out of every paycheck.“Watching your money accumulate is a major way to double down on resilience,” he says. Then, if you face a sudden unexpected expense, you have a financial cushion to protect yourself, which evokes a feeling of “richness” or comfort.
Create a Budget and Pay Off Debt
“If you don’t track where your money is going, you will feel financially insecure because you’re worried all the time about, ‘Where is my money going?’” Gendreau says. She suggests using a budget to track your spending, especially given current inflation levels.Celebrate Your Progress
When McCoy finally paid off six figures of student loan debt, she celebrated the first withdrawal-free paycheck. But she says she would have felt even better if she had celebrated her progress along the way instead.“I had just one moment of happiness that quickly dwindled. If I could do it over, I would celebrate every $10,000 I paid off—then I could have celebrated 10 times.”