Today’s children are experiencing alarming levels of stress, anxiety, and depression compared to past generations. So why does happiness elude so many of them?
I asked Dr. Hansa Bhargava, pediatrician and author of “Building Happier Kids: Stress-Busting Tools for Parents,” for her advice. Here’s what she said:
The Epoch Times: What, in your opinion, is at the root of the alarming rates of stress and anxiety in today’s children?
Dr. Hansa Bhargava: Unfortunately, our lives have become hectic with fundamentals of family, community, sleep, and recharge time that was part of almost every culture for centuries, replaced by what I call the “merry-go-round” of hectic activities, screens, and “keeping up with the Joneses” with the race to be smarter and better. Our kids, unfortunately, have paid the price with rising stress and anxiety levels. But I believe that the pandemic has shone a light on this, and we are ready for change!
The Epoch Times: What are the most common signs of stress in children that parents should look out for?
Dr. Bhargava: Stress can manifest in many ways—from mood changes and changing grades to withdrawal and even body signs such as headaches and stomachaches. If your kids seem different than their baseline, talk to them and listen. Are academics stressful? Are they feeling overwhelmed or sad? If you’re worried, talk to your pediatrician or mental wellness professional.
The Epoch Times: What can parents do to reduce their children’s stress levels?
Dr. Bhargava: I really believe that two elements are essential: time to be together and communicate and scheduling “pauses” where kids have quiet time. In fact, rest and boredom have been shown to not only energize but also help creativity.
The Epoch Times: What are the key elements to a happy life for a child?
Dr. Bhargava: Key elements are the 3 “Cs”: centering, connection, and community. Teaching a child ways to center themselves is key, as life is full of hurdles—deep breathing, meditation, and quiet time can be three tools. Connection to their “team” is key also. The team is you and other caregivers, but also friends and other family—an inner circle that’s there for them. Community is key too; it could be the soccer club or the church.
The Epoch Times: In your experience, what do most parents struggle with most when it comes to supporting their child’s happiness and well-being?
Dr. Bhargava: I think parents are so busy they don’t even have time for themselves. And when self-replenishment doesn’t occur, it’s hard to give to others’ happiness. It’s important for parents to take time so that they can see clearly and prioritize what matters to them and their kids and let go of the rest.
The Epoch Times: If a parent reading this right now is concerned about their child’s level of stress, what’s the first thing you’d advise him or her to do?
Dr. Bhargava: Talk to the child. And listen. Let your child know that it’s OK to be stressed sometimes, but if the parent is worried that it is more than normal, don’t be afraid to ask a professional for help.
