As former U.S. presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg and his husband Chasten Glezman Buttigieg released a photo of themselves holding their new twins, Penelope Rose and Joseph August Buttigieg, social media lit up with comments and speculations about how and where their babies came from.
There was a lot of righteous indignation like, “Why are they sitting in a hospital bed?”, as if to suggest they must recover from giving birth. Any woman who has had one baby, let alone twins, knows how difficult labor and delivery can be!
Many were upset asking, “Where is the mother?” and “Why is she erased from this cute new family with their babies’ picture?”
And of course, many, myself included, wanted to know whether this was a paid gestational surrogacy contract pregnancy or an adoption?
So, why do I think these babies are a product of a surrogacy arrangement? First, as an ex-pediatric critical care nurse, I’m familiar with the data on twin births.
Based on Chasten going on record about trying to adopt and only having their efforts fail, to them now joyfully posing in a photo holding their twins, it is not a big leap to conclude these babies were born via surrogacy.
He recounts receiving a phone call that a baby had been born and that the birth mother wanted to surrender her child to them in a legal adoption. This phone call caused them to rush to get prepared for the arrival of the baby, only to have their hopes dashed when the birth mother changed her mind.
If this is, in fact, the case, I have a lot more questions. First, “Who is the egg donor?” as gestational surrogacy implies the birth mother has not contributed her genetics, she’s just the rented womb. Who is listed as the mother on these babies’ birth certificates, or have both women been erased by legal contract, only listing Pete and Chasten as the fathers?
What is the plan for the Buttigiegs to tell their children who their birth mother or genetic mother are? Or will they grow up never knowing their biological OR their birth mother.
Finally, did they both provide sperm in order to each have a biological connection with the twins? This practice is common amongst gay couples who use surrogacy as it provides them each with a “child of their own.”
From where I sit, it appears two women have been bought, purchased, and commodified for the wealthy Buttigiegs to “build their family” by design, through modern technology.