Due to the scarcity of information, the details of the woman’s death are limited. We know that she was a three-time gestational surrogate who was set to deliver the baby the day of her death. We are told in the GoFundMe notice that she died of an amniotic embolism, a complication in pregnancy.
We don’t know if she was carrying one baby or more, or the outcome of the baby/babies born. It’s reported that her daughter is about to turn 16, and that she had sons, although we aren’t told how many.
I am often asked, “How many surrogates have died?” and my response, always the same, is a so very sad, “We just don’t know, and we have no way of knowing, because there is no tracking or monitoring.”
When this woman died, the cause of death recorded on her death certificate will likely be something tied to the pregnancy complication that took her life. It won’t record anywhere that she was a surrogate.
The baby’s (or babies’, as we don’t know if she was carrying one or twins or more) birth certificate will not record the fact that the birth mother died. Most likely, because of pre-birth orders, the birth mother’s name will never even appear on the birth certificate.
The coverup of #BigFertility was fast and efficient. All my efforts to find out who the woman was and where this death took place came up empty. I sent a private message to Family Matters on Facebook that I was trying to reach Hammonds.
I received a message that said, “Hello, Jennifer, out of respect for the family, we are honoring their wishes by not sharing any further details outside of what has already been shared on the Go Fund Me surrounding the tragedy. Thank you for understanding.”
Funny, my query didn’t mention anything about the death, only that I wanted to speak with Hammond. As I was immediately blocked from sending more messages, that door was shut. I called their offices and wasn’t able to speak with a live person.
Their Twitter account “doesn’t exist” as there was a flurry of tweets to them upon this breaking news, which I imagine prompted them to shut down their Twitter account.
- Why, when you set up the GoFundMe account, were you trying to raise $45,000 and within a few hours, you dropped that amount to $25,000?
- How do you set the price for your GoFundMe account, what exactly is the value of her life and how did you determine that?
- What is your agency’s policy about informing surrogates of the serious health risks, especially in the case of a woman who has had at least three of her own children and is embarking upon her third surrogacy pregnancy, compounding these risks to her poor body?
- Does your agency or did the intended parents carry a life insurance policy and if not, why not? And if so, for how much?
- What is your obligation to the orphans left behind?
Family Makers Surrogacy’s tagline is, “Changing Lives for Those we Serve.” The family of the woman who died had their lives changed tragically in service of #BigFertility. I wonder and hope that this death will cause Hammonds to rethink her business of being Family Makers, when sometimes surrogacy results in making orphans.
An orphan maker, who at the time of this writing, has raised a little over $21,000. Is that what this woman’s life is worth?