Should men have a say on the question of abortion, either as a matter of law and policy or as a personal matter in their own lives?
Silencing Pro-Life Men
Behind the effort to silence pro-life men is the notion that only those who bear the burden of pregnancy are entitled to voice an opinion on the matter. It’s an odd view of public policymaking, and it’s hard to find an analogous case where it would not appear absurd.Does anyone argue that only young men, who bear the main burden of killing or being killed in battle, are entitled to voice their opinions on foreign affairs or matters of war and peace? And few, I suspect, think that only slave-owners are entitled to an opinion about the morality of owning or killing a slave? Or that only caregivers of the severely disabled should be allowed opinions on euthanasia in such cases.
Not many would be persuaded today by arguments that the slave, like the child in the womb, is not a full human being and so is not entitled to the same legal protection as others against being killed.
This narrative about opposition to legalized abortion being a way the patriarchy keeps women down may persuade some men to keep silent. Not, of course, those who support abortion as a necessary backstop for the pill in sustaining the promise of casual and uncommitted sex. Nor those who rely on the option of abortion to protect their reputations and careers from the unwanted side-effects of their promiscuity. Such men have learned well the modern feminist line as the acceptable way of defending their own interests.
Two Men and an Abortion
The story of my friend Jason Scott Jones, a film producer, writer, and human-rights and pro-life activist, illustrates both kinds of man. Jason has told his story, describing how he and the girl—both still in high school—adjusted to learning she was pregnant. They scrapped their hopes and plans for college and career. He dropped out of school to join the Army. After basic training, their new plan was, they would be together and he would provide for all three of them. Jason embraced his role of father, protector, and provider when his girlfriend told him the news, just before his 17th birthday.Jason tells the heart-breaking story of how the girl called him when he was close to graduating from basic training, crying her heart out as he’d never heard a woman cry before, to tell him again and again that she was sorry and “It wasn’t me.” Her father took the phone from her hand and told Jason she had had an abortion. Jason fell apart, but managed to get out the words to his captain, “Sir, call the police, my girlfriend’s father killed my child.” The captain gently explained to him that, since Roe v. Wade, abortion was legal. Jason became from that day a committed pro-life activist.
Most men are not so vocal or vehement on either side of the abortion issue. I suspect that for every man who responds to his girlfriend’s unexpected pregnancy as Jason did to protect and provide for his child, there are several who gladly write a check for the abortion clinic to protect their own plans and freedom. Given the demise of the shotgun wedding tradition—even as a metaphor for pressure on the man by the pregnant girl’s family to marry the girl—it’s reasonable to suspect that many men react as the girl’s father did in this case, protecting his family’s reputation at the expense of his preborn grandchild’s life.
Men as Promoters of Abortion
There is no, however, question about the key role played by men in advancing abortion as policy and practice. Feminists from Mary Wollstonecraft in the 18th century to Margaret Sanger in the 20th, abhorred abortion. It was feminists in the 19th century, not supporters of the patriarchy, who campaigned for passage of anti-abortion laws. What happened to turn feminists in the late 20th century into campaigners for abolition of those laws that their sisters had won a few decades earlier?One part of the explanation has to be the key role of men in advancing the cause of abortion. It was not until Sanger’s retirement and death in the 1960s that the male abortion advocate Alan Guttmacher took over as president of Sanger’s organization, Planned Parenthood Federation, and turned it into a corporate advocate for, and then one of the world’s leading providers of, abortion.
It took the relentless efforts of journalist Larry Lader and abortionist Dr. Bernard Nathanson to persuade reluctant feminists and women’s movement leaders to support legal abortion. With relentless persuasion and bogus statistics, they eventually won over Betty Friedan—the first edition of whose book, “The Feminist Mystique,” didn’t mention abortion—and Cosmopolitan magazine editor Helen Gurley Brown. Lader and Nathanson founded NARAL, now called the National Abortion Rights Action League, and persuaded a reluctant NOW (National Organization for Women) to take up the cause.
Both the press and the Supreme Court itself relied on abortion statistics that, as Nathanson later admitted, were completely made up, fabricated because the truth was not on their side. The shameless behavior of these men played a decisive role in promoting abortion in a women’s movement that had always opposed it.