Creating a More Spacious Life

Find more ease and freedom by recognizing what you can control

The real freedom you crave isn’t in rearranging your life, it’s in changing how you experience life.Monkey Business Images/Shutterstock

I’ve worked with a number of people who want more spaciousness in their lives—more time for rest, play, reading, reflecting, self-care, and hanging out with friends and other loved ones.

The challenge isn’t that it’s hard to create more time (although, for some people, it’s actually very hard). The challenge is that no matter how much time we have, we aren’t likely to experience it as spacious, restful, joyful, or playful.

We can create all the time in the world, but the truth is that we’ll probably have a very similar experience in that spacious time that we have already. If you take a sabbatical, you’ll probably experience some openness for a little bit, but then restlessness and fears will start to take over, and you’ll create a lot of things for yourself to do and a feeling that you need to be productive (for example).

Whatever you experience already is likely to be what you’ll experience no matter how you arrange your life.

The real freedom you crave isn’t in rearranging your life (although that can be helpful), it’s in changing how you experience life.

Let’s take a look at how you can do that.

A Spacious Experience of Life

No matter what we’re doing, we can experience it as rushed and stressful, or we can experience it as spacious and peaceful. We can have any kind of experience of the activity.

For example, if you’re out for a walk, you can be on your phone checking messages and feeling the anxiousness of all the things you still need to do. Or you can experience the spaciousness of the walk, feeling expansive wonder about all the nature around you and feeling the freedom of being outdoors and being alive.

In any moment, we can experience peace. Whether you’re responding to messages and emails, writing, washing a dish, talking to someone, sitting in on a meeting, or doing something courageous and inspired.

The thing to recognize is that it’s a choice. You can choose to feel anxious and rushed in any moment or to feel at ease. You get to choose your experience of any moment.

As you practice moment to moment, you can expand how spacious your life feels as a whole. You go from feeling constantly rushed and behind to feeling life as abundant, free, and calm.

How to Practice

So how do you practice this miraculous way to create spaciousness in your life? It’s all yours for the low price of $500—kidding!

Try to practice right now, as you read this:

1. Take a moment to sit still and allow your awareness to expand outward, so you feel more expansive.
2. Allow your breath to be deeper and wider, so you feel a spacious nourishing breath.
3. Allow yourself to feel as wide as the sky, so all of life feels expansive.
4. Allow yourself to slow down for a moment, so life feels more spread out.

This is the kind of practice you can do in any moment, with any activity. You don’t have to do all four of these steps, but you can try whatever helps you feel peace and freedom in each moment.

Try moving a little slower, so you aren’t so rushed.

Try savoring each moment.

Try imagining that you can do anything within a wide open fresh expanse of the universe.

What would it be like if your life could be experienced with greater spaciousness?