Many people feel empty, exhausted, and worn out from life. They just don’t have the energy they need to do the things life is throwing at them. This listlessness is fairly common.
Stress and Sleep Problems
A rough sleep can leave you feeling depleted. Instead of bounding out of bed with a spring in your step, you feel sluggish and unmotivated.There are many reasons people don’t get restful sleep, but one of the most common is stress.
It makes sense that stress and fatigue go hand in glove. Stress triggers our body to prepare for action with hormones and blood sugar to match. That’s fine for short bursts, but enduring stress grinds the body down.
No Longer a Parent, Not Yet a Grandparent
A functional medical doctor based in Portland, Oregon, Yu has struggled with not having energy. At 52, she recently found herself with an empty nest. When both her young adult children, ages 18 and 21, moved out of state, she felt profoundly unmoored. She was no longer a parent and not yet a grandparent. Unsure of who she was now that she no longer had children at home, Yu felt like she had no energy.“I lost my purpose. I got really depressed,” Yu said. “It’s lonely. There’s a shift.”
While some older adults enjoy a higher quality of life after they retire, others find that when they lose their professional connections and no longer have a 9-to-5 job to report to, they become unsure of who they are and how they should spend their time.
A Purpose-Filled Life
There are three things that really feed your energy, Yu told me: your purpose, your creativity, and giving life to others.In other words, a common root cause of not having enough energy, according to Yu, is not living a purpose-filled life. This means the best way to have more energy is to find activities that are purposeful, creative, and life-giving.
She advises people who are feeling low energy to ask themselves: “What would be educational to me? What would spark my curiosity? What would be life-giving to others or to myself? And what creative endeavors would I enjoy?”
For Yu, the answer to those questions led her to discover several new interests: Though she still works full-time as a doctor (albeit remotely from a home office), she decided to learn how to train animals, breed rare aquarium fish, raise aquatic plants, and also study the chemistry and science behind proper skincare. The rescue dog she is training (though she’s a self-described cat person) and her aquarium fish energize her in unexpected ways.
“We have the skills, we have the wisdom, we have the experience,” Yu said, referring to older adults learning new skills. “Why not?”
The Feng Shui of Fish
Yu started becoming interested in fish when her daughter got a fish tank while Oregon was under lockdown. She studied rare breeds, discovered that some fish had gone extinct outside of aquarium breeding, and joined several Portland-area fish clubs.“There’s education involved, competition involved, volunteerism, giving and sharing. If you want money you can sell fish,” Yu said. “Spending three hours cleaning fish tanks is life-giving in my mind, because they’re living beings that are dependent on me. It’s really therapeutic.”
The Chinese tradition of feng shui involves arranging your living space to create balance with the natural world. In feng shui, when you harness energy forces, you establish harmony between yourself and your environment.
Having water inside the home is important in feng shui, Yu told me. In Asian cultures, indoor falling water can bring luck, joy, and prosperity into your life.
Now Yu has seven fish tanks in her home and breeds six kinds of fish, which she shares with her local aquarium clubs so younger people can get fish for free or at low cost. As much as she is learning from the Greater Portland Aquarium Society, she has also become a mentor there.
And Yu’s interest in aquarium fish blossomed into an interest in aquatic horticulture. She says breeding and propagating aquatic plants is another pursuit that can give you energy.
Try a Trampoline
Yu has another trick to get more energy: She spends time every day on a small bungee-style trampoline. This was Louise Hay’s trick as well. Hay, founder of Hay House Publishing and the bestselling author of “You Can Heal Your Life,” did a hundred jumps on the trampoline every day.But you don’t have to jump into the air, Yu said. You just stand on it and bend your knees so you’re moving your body up and down.
“It moves your lymph around like crazy,” she said. “It’s very energizing.”
In addition, trampolining and other balancing exercises are good for the vestibular system inside the brain, helping to improve your balance and depth perception, which are two things that tend to get off-kilter when you age. “If you’re older, get a trampoline with a handrail,” she said.
And while you’re bouncing, you can brainstorm other new activities you'd be excited to try.