Being a parent has never been easy, especially nowadays.
Previously, we worried about the influence on our children by bad friends or the counterculture trends in society. But now, schools, the internet, media, doctors, and even laws are determined to diminish our influence on them.
Gender ideology has the whole Western world in its clutches. It’s not aimed at eliminating discrimination as has been claimed, but rather at converting our next generation into the “transgeneration.” It’s an attack on all families, not only those of conservatives, but also liberal ones.
In schools, children have notions planted in them such as “gender is different from biological sex” and “gender is not binary.” The health curricula in some schools include systematic indoctrination of LGBTQ gender ideology, and engage students in imagining themselves as a different gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, or gender role. Apparently, for psychologically vulnerable kids, this activity is likely to cause them to question their own gender or sexual orientation.
According to Wall Street Journal writer Abigail Shrier’s 2020 book “Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters,” children who self-identified as “transgender” are called by their preferred names and pronouns at school, adolescents can be provided puberty blockers (chemicals once used to castrate sex offenders) and sex hormones if requested, and sex-changing surgeries are encouraged by teachers, therapists, and doctors. All these can be done without the consent or knowledge of their parents.
These are not just “the work of one rogue teacher’s union,” but “the logical extension of all the laws and policies and radical curricula already adopted in California and cropping up across the country,” Shrier wrote. In fact, “New York, New Jersey, Colorado, Illinois, Northern Virginia, and Oregon public schools have already adopted a radical approach to gender in their curricula and policies.”
First, they are kept from their children’s situation, and then after finding out and expressing their disapproval, they are blackmailed emotionally: “Would you rather have a dead daughter or a live son?”
The culture war is relentless. We parents are pushed to the front line, but have nowhere to hide. We have to fight for our children’s well-being and souls.
The Myth of ‘Gender Identity’
Many kind-hearted people may ask:“Aren’t transgender people born that way?”
“Isn’t gender identity unchangeable?”
“Why not support their transitions through cross-sex hormones and surgeries? Don’t they feel better that way?”
“Don’t gender transitions prevent suicide?”
“Isn’t gender non-binary? It is a deep feeling of who you are. Facebook has 58 gender options!”
These are common points sold to us by the mass media to recruit support for gender ideology. However, they are not supported by scientific evidence.
In other words, the claim “people are born that way” has no scientific basis.
Is gender self-identification unchangeable? No.
Mayer and McHugh also pointed out that “sexual orientation may be quite fluid over the life course for some people, with one study estimating that as many as 80% of male adolescents who report same-sex attractions no longer do so as adults.”
Do gender transitions prevent suicide? No.
Do You Think Something Is Wrong?
Once upon a time, quiet and shy boys, as well as naughty and tomboyish girls, grew up normally in society without any issues and had no problems with their biological sex.But now, everything is tied to gender identity or sexual orientation. These kids may be lured into believing themselves as “transgender.”
Once upon a time, we knew that while children were developing physically and mentally, they were cognitively immature. As parents, we had an obligation to guide them. But now, we are told, “Children know best!”
Once upon a time, doctors didn’t buy into the self-diagnosis of patients. They relied on medical examinations and their professional training to get to the root of the symptoms. They wouldn’t agree to do a gastric bypass surgery simply because an anorexic patient believes he or she is too fat.
But now, they would be happy to chop off someone’s breasts or genitalia simply because the patient believes he or she was “born in the wrong body.” The doctors either aren’t allowed or aren’t willing to check and treat the underlying depression, anxiety, or trauma.
Are We Helping the Children?
As teenage girls lead the charge toward transgender identity, they are cheered on by mainstream media and social networks. People are often told, “Social affirmation by calling them by their preferred names and pronouns is a way to respect them,” or “Puberty blockers is just a pause button which can be undone at any time, it is reversible.”None of this is true. Every step of gender transition, including the social one, is a strong intervention that pushes a child further down the path of transgenderism, a path with a lifelong battle with their own biological sex that is imprinted in the chromosomes of every single cell in their bodies.
In her book, Shrier discussed the roles each transition step played on the well-being of teenage girls:
Cross-sex hormones: “Transgender-identified women are given a dosage of testosterone ten to forty times greater than their bodies would normally bear to produce the changes they seek.” It is a lifelong hormone dependency with consequences of “heightened rates of diabetes, stroke, blood clots, cancer, and, as we’ve seen, heart disease.” Even if the hormone is stopped later, the woman will forever have facial hair, a deepened voice, and masculinized facial features.
What Causes the Craziness?
How has gender ideology dominated all aspects of society in the whole Western world? Why is it so powerful, yet so absurd?That’s a question many people wish to answer. People point to social contagion in this digital age, health care policies, and the declining conscience of some doctors.
Before modern society diminished religious faiths in recent decades, the moral standard of humankind had been stable for thousands of years. At that time, law and morality were defined by what is allowed by God, instead of how we humans feel. People understood that suffering was necessary, because in the West, people believed they have sins, and in the East, people knew they have committed karma. They understood the principle of “no pain, no gain,” and strived to be better amid hardship. When their desires went against the moral standard, they knew it was their responsibility to get rid of them. These are the values still cherished by many conservatives in today’s society.
People on the left embrace humanism. They consider the boundaries set by God’s teachings as shackles and superstition. For them, suffering is evil, happiness is virtuous, and desire is what they follow. The standard of judging right from wrong is based on how humans feel or need, which is constantly shifting. Unfortunately, this is the slippery slope that the Western world has been on for quite a long time.
With this standard, if people think they can love and marry anybody regardless of their biological sex, what’s wrong if someone wants to become any “gender” they desire? Gender ideology is a natural extension of humanism. When liberal parents were told by their children, “I can only be happy after I change my sex,” what can they say? Yes, they know what is good for their children in the long run, but the children have been convinced that they themselves know their feelings best.
Communism emerged later, and it also embraced promiscuity. At its core is the abandoning of God and moral restraints.
What Can We Do?
Shrier interviewed many parents and experts for her book, and offered wonderful suggestions to those who have teenage girls with gender dysphoria: separate your children from the influence of the internet, their peers, and school that make them question their gender, and teach them to appreciate girlhood.She also wrote about the parents’ reflection of their own worldview after experiencing the pain:
“Many of the mothers of suddenly trans-identifying teenage girls have grown disillusioned with progressivism and disaffected from the Democratic Party, which they believe has abandoned girls for the sake of the transgender cause. Several have been betrayed by progressive friends who went behind their backs to buy their daughters a binder [a breast-compression garment] or to give the girls encouragement in what their mothers viewed as a regimen of self-harm.”
For many, when they embrace progressivism, what they think of is love, freedom, etc. They don’t realize where this path will eventually lead until the dire consequences are slammed in their faces.
Society is sprinting down an immoral track. Teaching our children with faith and tradition isn’t easy. Many of my readers ask, “Is it useful?” “Is your daughter convinced by your articles?” My answer is yes, the logic and data make it hard for her to refute, so she accepts my points, but she will keep coming up with new questions and challenges. Sometimes, I am infuriated, such as when we argue about whether gender is binary or not.
But in the end, the only way that works is to calm down, figure out what made her think that way, and guide her with calm and solid reasoning.
All efforts are useful, even when they frown, shake their heads, or even scream. What we teach will take root in them, and emerge in their head when they face temptation or bad influence. My daughter just went to college. When her roommates invited her to drink alcohol, she refused and told them, “Thanks, but I have religious beliefs.”
To me, this is a wonderful surprise. I also made sure she had a STEM major, and avoided courses related to race, gender, class, inequality, etc., in her general education curriculum. Humanities-related majors in today’s colleges and universities are brainwashing camps for the left.
With love and persistence, we can make it.
