Helping Children Understand the Loss of a Loved One

Children need to have a chance for a forthright discussion—in their own time and in terms they understand

It is normal for parents to grieve the loss of a loved one. Doing so shows children how loss can affect us, and how to move through it. TijanaM/shutterstock

Losing someone—a friend or family member—is a difficult time in our lives. It’s also an important time to think about how to talk to your kids. There are some important things you should be mindful of as you navigate this discussion.

Foremost, be honest and direct (avoid euphemisms) with your children. It is critical you adapt whatever you say to the developmental level of your child. Psychologist Jean Piaget (1896-1980) offers developmental markers to guide us.